How Afternoon Tea Works

Afternoon tea is a light, elegant meal enjoyed between lunch and dinner, usually served from around 3:00 to 5:00 in the afternoon. It typically features a fixed selection of three parts: savory bites, scones, and sweet treats, all accompanied by tea.

It’s important not to confuse afternoon tea with “high tea.” High tea is actually a more substantial evening meal, traditionally eaten by working families between 5:00 and 7:00 p.m., often including hearty dishes rather than delicate snacks.

The custom of afternoon tea began in the 1840s with Anna Maria Russell. She would feel hungry in the late afternoon but didn’t want a full meal before dinner. To solve this, she requested a small tray of tea, bread, and cakes. Over time, she began inviting friends to join her, turning the habit into a fashionable social event among upper-class women.

Afternoon tea is sometimes called “low tea” because it is traditionally served at low tables with comfortable seating. In contrast, high tea is eaten at a standard-height dining table. Despite the common misconception, calling afternoon tea “high tea” is technically incorrect.

The Three Courses of Afternoon Tea

A traditional afternoon tea is presented on a tiered stand and includes three distinct layers:

First Course: Tea Sandwiches
These are small, delicate sandwiches designed to be eaten by hand. They are usually crustless for a refined appearance and easier handling. Popular fillings include cucumber, egg salad, and smoked salmon.

Second Course: Scones
Scones are served with clotted cream and jam. They are typically eaten with your hands, breaking them apart before adding toppings.

Third Course: Sweets
The final course features miniature desserts such as pastries and cakes. These are bite-sized and can usually be eaten in a couple of bites, though a small fork may be used if needed.

How to Order Afternoon Tea

Choose the set menu
Most venues offer only one or two afternoon tea options. Each guest orders their own set, and pricing is usually per person. The food selection is fixed, so you won’t customize the items.

Select your tea
You’ll choose your preferred tea from a menu. Traditional choices are black teas, but herbal options are available for those avoiding caffeine or for children.

What to Expect During the Experience

After placing your order, your pot of tea is usually served first, allowing you to begin sipping before the food arrives. The food is then presented, often on a three-tier stand, though sometimes sandwiches may be served separately first.

The proper order of eating is:

Sandwiches

Scones with cream and jam

Sweet pastries

Most items are eaten by hand, with utensils only needed for spreading toppings or handling messier desserts.

Afternoon tea is meant to be leisurely, often lasting around two hours. It’s a calm and refined experience, not something to rush.

If you’d like more tea, you can request additional hot water to refill your pot.

If you have dietary requirements, such as vegetarian preferences or allergies, it’s best to inform the venue when booking and again when ordering. Many places are happy to accommodate.

Dress Code

Although relaxed, afternoon tea carries a semi-formal atmosphere. Casual clothing like sneakers or jeans is usually discouraged. Smart casual or business casual attire is recommended, making it a perfect occasion to dress up a bit.

Afternoon Tea Etiquette

Keep your pinky down
Hold the teacup handle with your thumb and index finger, supporting it with your middle finger. Extending your pinky is considered improper.

Handling utensils
After using a knife or fork, do not place it directly on the table. Rest it on your plate instead.

Using a teaspoon
Never drink tea with the spoon still inside the cup. After stirring, place the spoon on the saucer behind the cup.

Teacup and saucer etiquette
Keep the cup and saucer close together. If seated at a table, leave the saucer on the table. If you move away from the table, you may hold the saucer at waist level while sipping.

Taking leftovers
Traditionally, taking leftovers home is not considered proper etiquette. However, it’s acceptable if the server offers, and even if not, you may politely request it.

Afternoon tea remains a refined and enjoyable way to spend time—combining good food, conversation, and a sense of tradition in a relaxed setting.